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Make Yourself Appear Perfect. First impressions are everything. Nowhere does this old adage ring more true than in the world of online dating. Your picture is your first impression…and your second, third, fourth, and last impression as well. You will be giving impressions all day long as people view your profile. How many do you want to impress? How many can you impress? Remember that your impression is you, for you, and up to you!

Your profile has to be so tight that you attract exactly who you want the minute she checks you out. When creating your profile, you have to make yourself look as attractive as possible on many levels without coming off as arrogant or boastful. You always want to show your best attributes and lifestyle choices to women, since they, too, have to decide on you.

Keep in mind that you are never going to be perfect for everyone, no matter how hard you try. You just want to be everything to your perfect matches. Women love a confident man, but hate an arrogant man. A general problem with men is that we dont know where that fine line between arrogance and confidence is, and we typically cross it most of the time. This line is even finer from a womans perspective. Your profile is BAIT, so dont lose sight of that for a second.

The first step is your pictures. Human beings are visual creatures, and I dont care how often women say they are not interested in looks, they are. Just look around at movies, television, and magazines. You dont see fat guys on the cover of GQ. And for some strange reason, in the movie “Oceans 11,” Brad Pitt got all the press and not 45-year-old bug-eyed Bernie Mac…go figure. Yes, women like looks because women love a hot piece of ass as much as we do. The good news is that women want so much more than looks.

You should be engaging and active in the ways you want to be perceived. Show yourself enjoying things you want your targets to respect you for doing. They dont necessarily have to want to do the same things as you, but at least they respect what kind of man you are for doing them. If you like fishing, that is great; show yourself reeling in that huge yellow tail off the coast of Mexico, but dont expect that picture alone to attract only women who like to fish. Do expect it to attract women who respect a man for being a man and who want to meet a man who is in control and knows how to enjoy life.

Just a few of the Dos and donts when choosing your pictures

Dos:

Choose pictures that show how you want to be perceived. Show real actions or traits that you possess to maximize your targets.

Post clear pictures.

Diversify with at least five pictures.

Focus on your best attributes.

Donts:

No cell-phone or web-cam pics.

Dont ever show your car.

Dont show pictures that no longer look like you.

Dont show fake pictures.

Take careful consideration in choosing each picture you post online. If you have an attractive smile, then you should show it off.

If you are into racing cars or any type of motorized sports, show yourself in action, but dont show yourself sitting on the hood of your ride or waxing your rims.

If you are a party guy, definitely show yourself out with friends, having a great time. DO NOT ever show yourself drunk, with drunken friends, drunken girls, or any symbols of booze or drugs.

Quality social pictures are a great way to attract women. Most women love to be around a fun guy who they know they will have a great time with. I hope you are getting my point about what to show and what not to show.

Ive heard horror stories of so many guys who dont look at all like their pictures. You dont want to be one of those idiots. Remember, you will have to show up to the date eventually, and if you are going on a date with a girl who impresses you, the last “first impression” you want her to have is that you are a liar!

Once you have chosen the pictures you would like to put on your profile then you have to chose the most important one of all, the one that represents you in all your glory, the one, the only, the “default” picture. This is the most important first impression you will make so you better make it a good one.

Some of the elements your default picture should have:

Head shot or half body shot

Clear

Up to date

Just you

Very simple clothing (ie: white shirt, black shirt, colors that compliment you, no patterns)

Shane Andrew – http://www.slowandtight.com

Your Pictures Grab Their Attention; Your Words Will Keep It!

Think of this part as your interview before the date. Just like an employer in a job interview is looking for a perfect employee who has certain skills and personality traits, each woman online is looking for someone particular in her search. You will never attract every woman, but remember you are trying to attract only those targets who YOU want, so make sure what you are writing is geared to what they want. Sound confusing? Not really. You just have to put yourself in your targets shoes. You can do this easily by reading their profiles and extracting what you perceive as attractive. Once again, you cant attract everyone, and thats not our goal here.

The goal is to tighten up your profile to attract and keep the interest of who you want! The #1 mistake that men make when it comes to dating is we say the wrong things to women and end up looking like idiots. You have to STOP, SLOW down, and THINK about what you are saying about yourself and who is reading it. A woman will be reading it…not a man…not someone who thinks like you. Women read and hear things differently than men do!

As we get started, let me cover a certain subject just to make myself feel better. It may sound silly, but it is something we all learned in high school but seem to forget from time to time: Check your spelling and grammar. There is nothing more painful than reading a grown adults writing with bad spelling, grammar, or hip-hop slang.

Before we actually get to the meat and potatoes part of writing your profile, lets touch on the “attention-grabbing” headline. In my opinion this is a joke and online daters spend way to much time on trying to create something cute or self-summarizing. Dont take it serious just come up with something so people know who you are. Trust me, your picture is just below the “attention-grabbing” headline and that is what is truly going to be “attention grabbing.” Not the fact that you wrote “hotstud4u” or “flyboy69″. Leave the creativity and humor to your actual profile.

Now lets dive into writing your profile. So for starters, dont write too much, but dont write too little either. Write just enough. What is just enough? That answer is up to you, based on researching your targets profiles and how much they write. Your best bet is three small paragraphs that read like a short story or script. To do that, you need an intro, body, and close. This creates a flow that is easy to follow, yet still covers the bases. If you do go a longer route, make sure you are not rambling about yourself and you are absolutely fascinating. Less is often more. And a hint of mystery can also keep your target intrigued and desiring more information.

Three main sections

1. Intro

2. About me

3. Who I want to meet

Intro

Just like your pictures, you have to get back to basics and create a strong first impression. Start your profile immediately with a captivating opening to make sure the first impression is strong enough to keep your targets interest and doesnt chase them away. Your intro can be one to several sentences, but most of all, it has to be positive, showing confidence in yourself.

About me

Remember all women love confidence and hate arrogance, and this is a very fine line that can differ from woman to woman. Therefore, I recommend toning it down slightly to the modest side of your confidence.

The intro is the most important section and the largest part of your profile, so make sure you thoroughly express who you are. Share your thoughts and your beliefs about what makes you tick. Tell about your hobbies and things you enjoy doing. Goals are always good because they show you have a future and a focus in life. There are many things you want to share; just remember the things you write about are the things that will attract exactly that target.

Family and friends are always a great topic, but do it without the sappiness. Sappiness about how much you love your mom or how you would die for your friends are huge turn-offs.

No matter what you decide to talk about in your “About me,” it all has to be the truth. Never ever lie about what you do, have done, or want to do. It will come back to haunt you, and you do not want your targets to desire you on a false pretense of who you are anyway. You want them to want you for who you are or else they really arent your true targets anyway. Dishonesty is not the way.

Who I want to meet

The third and last section of your profile is your TIGHT section in which you define your target. This does not mean give a laundry list of the physical and mental qualities of your perfect women. Basically, you want to state a few nice things about who you want. Make sure they line up with who you really do want, based on what you learned from researching your targets profiles. Keep it simple and brief or you will come off very needy. Needy is never sexy. Remember, women love confident men.

Bottom line is your target really doesnt care what you want in a partner. They are more interested in what they want in a man. Unless you are definitely looking for a chess partner, shopping partner, fishing partner, someone to play soccer with, or a momma to your baby, then dont put the exact details of an activity in your “who I want to meet” section. Do you really want a woman to go fishing with you? I doubt it, so dont ask for it.

Shane Andrew – http://www.slowandtight.com

Online dating is one of the best ways to find that someone special for your life. The old way of finding a wife or husband was utilizing friends, meeting someone at work, school or out with friends. If you think about it the old way does have some limitations on looking for that someone special. Online dating allows you to look through a lot of potential people to date. You can focus on someones profile to find that special someone that would fit what you are looking for.

Online Matching

Most sites have a matching program that will allow you to narrow the search for your perfect match. You enter the information and software will return the men or women that fit your parameters. I would not totally rely on this but it would be a good place to start.

Online Dating Removes Fear

Fear of getting rejected is a big reason a lot of people never meet. Online dating removes a lot of the fear especially when you are meeting people for the first time. You can use chat, emailing or send flirts to engage with someone that profile peaks your interest.

How to Utilize Online Dating

You need to get online and check out all the free dating websites. There are dating websites for Christians, Catholics, Ethnic and sexual orientation dating websites. Find the website that best meets what you are looking for and sign up. Look around and see if you can find that person that may be a perfect match. Make sure you really focus on a good profile so a match can be found.

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